There are two things we need to keep in balance. First, there is a "righteous" anger that stands up against sin. In Ephesians 4, there is a clear command to be angry, over the things that would grieve God's heart. "When you are angry, do not sin" (verse 26). Biblically, two wrongs never equal one right. Even if we become righteously angry over some anger-producing situation in our life or the lives of others, we are never justified in reacting in a sinful way.

Second, try as we might by logical reason, we will not always be able to avoid an immediate emotion. If someone cuts in front of us on the freeway, our instantaneous reaction may be anger. There's nothing wrong about anger at this point. But when we let anger remain in our lives, or when we take its energy and direct it toward another person to hurt them, we move from a normal, healthy feeling to a destructive one.

Apply what Martin Luther used to say to negative thoughts: "You can't keep the birds from flying over your head...but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair!" We may not be able to keep anger from cropping up, but we can make a decision to keep it from staying in our lives and poisoning our attitudes.
 

Some things we will never understand. Some losses will never make sense to us, but in time and in God's economy we can see that Romans 8:28 is true and does work. All things DO work together for good for those who love God.

We have biblical principles to live by and wise friends to give us counsel, yet we  cannot always find an answer to all the pain. Some of us will die, never knowing the "Why?" of our lives. We will have to be content realizing, "There are some things the Lord our God has kept secret..." (Deuteronomy 29:29 NCV).
 

I believe this is to be taken very literally. we practice this in our home, perhaps you so in yours. If there have been times of disagreement or anger throughout the day, clear them up by evening. When you lay your head on your pillow, make sure those feelings of anger have been resolved. Be certain that there is forgiveness, a clearing out of that conscience. Husbands and wives, don't go to sleep back to back. Don't allow yourself the luxury of feeling you can take care of it later on.

Every once in a while a Christian brother or sister tells me..., "You know, as I turned in that night, things just didn't settle right...I had to get up, turn the light on and make a phone call...or get dressed, go over to this person's house and talk with him face to face to clear it up." It's a real encouragement to hear things like that.

That's what Paul was saying. Don't let sin come in by prolonging your anger. There are probably some scars in your life that are there because you didn't solve anger when it occurred. You know, ninety-nine percent of all problems never solve themselves. Never! They just stay on like a burr in the saddle, until a sore is formed and you become diseased.